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The
new book on creating partnership, evolutionary behaviorists Donna Sheehan & Paul Reffell
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YOU say women already select their mates? You're right - the most assertive women do. But in the urban singles scene most women and men are circling each other uneasily, with the women giving subtle signals that don't work any more! In the post-feminism world, most men have become too unsure of their roles, so women must initiate boldly.
AND once they're together, women want romantic love and men want sexual love. Sounds simple, but divorce rates are still high and 26% of American households are single-occupant households!
WE have some answers. Read about the differences between the male and female brains; how we communicate differently; the Male Mask; creative collaboration; deep listening; and Sunday Sex. |
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"Bravo to your good work." Helen Fisher, Ph.D., Anthropologist, Author, Chemistry.com's Chief Scientific Advisor
"Using the Darwinian claim that it is the females in a species who choose their male mates, in this provocative book that tilts at the contemporary theoretical windmills of essentialism and sociobiological reductionism, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell hold out hope for the possibility of effective action by women who yearn for a relationship with a man.In moving ‘from patriarchy to partnership’ they characterize men, behind their ‘Alpha’ masks of confident, and even aggressive, stereotypical masculinity, as fragile in ways that align with Camille Paglia’s claims, and as fearful of rejection by women. Specifying a strategy of making men comfortable in the presence of women and attempting to heal some ways in which a stern and earnest feminism may have backfired on women, Sheehan and Reffell promise that seduction led by women can be passionate, playful, joyous, and most of all, effective and justified, indeed virtually mandated by biological precedent among primates.They advocate relationships initiated on this vision of gender equality as a microcosm of what could become a template for egalitarian partnership throughout society." Margaret Mackenzie Ph.D., Anthropologist
"Picking up from Darwin's theory of Sexual Selection, Redefining Seduction is an audacious and evocative look at male and female sexuality and the mating game. The premise of women as being in the evolutionary driver’s seat will undoubtedly have huge implications for generations to come. A definite must-read " Lesley Osman, M.A. MFT., www.ecoroots.org “Not another book on gender issues? Yes, and finally a foundation on gender to which I can teach. How necessary it is! Finally, a fresh and fascinating look at exactly what is going on inside us when men and women get together.”–John J. Scherer, Author of Work and the Human Spirit. www.scherercenter.com
"Redefining Seduction seems a breath of relief for women... Contrary to the Rules of the mid-1990s, from this approach women are informed that they can take the driver’s seat, be flirtatious and assertive, and still win that prized mate. Rosemarie Sokol, Ph.D., Social Anthropologist
"Why is it that the smallest and simplest of books tend to be the most powerful? Is it because they present to the reader ideas, concepts, theories, or proposals that are already implanted in the back of people's minds that make enormous sense? Or is it because the ideas represent the kinetic power that has been hidden away for centuries and appear unstoppable once the science of truth unleashes them?........." Read full review by William A. Spriggs, www.evoyage.com "Do you want to find that road that will not only change your life but will complement it at the same time?Redefining Seduction will certainly take you there with information, questions and quizzes regarding seduction hints, ultimate feminine powers, to seduce or not to seduce, on-line dating, do's and don'ts, equal partnership, surviving first dates, controlling conversation through positive gestures, self-acceptance, sexual confidence and more......................." Read full review by Dorothy Lafrinere "Donna & Paul's personal story of coming together along with their years of research had led them to realize that, as activists, the greatest positive impact of their lives could be restoring the innate power of female seduction to its rightful place. Interweaving their love story with Darwin's "sexual selection", they create a compelling call for change. Redefining Seduction rescues feminine seduction from its negative connotations, restoring its rightful place as an essential feminine skill....." Read full review by Robin Carpenter
"With deeply personal, insightful and funny stories about their own courtship, and practical, wise counsel on partnering successfully, this fascinating book is about much more than finding and sustaining life-affirming partnership. It teaches us about creating a world of our own conscious choosing and building a culture of peace." Read full review by Martine Algier, Certified Trainer, Center for Non-Violent Communication
Hear an interview of Donna & Paul by Women On Air hosts Coach Betty and Doctor A - November 2008
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LONG-TERM POSSIBILITIES
of true partnership between men and women: (in memory of Martha Glessing)
Let's start right now with the small steps that will take us there! |
FILM Donna
Sheehan and Paul Reffell are also pursuing production
of a feature-length documentary The following luminaries have expressed interest in taking part: Alice Andrews –
Evolutionary Psychologist; SUNY New Paltz
David P. Barash – Evolutionary Psychologist; U. of Washington Howard Bloom – Evolutionary Psychologist; New York David Buss – Evolutionary Psychologist; UT Austin Frans de Waal –Primatologist, Evolutionary Psychologist; Emory U. Riane Eisler – Social Scientist, Author; Center for Partnership Studies, CA Dylan Evans - Evolutionary Psychologist; University College, Cork, Ireland Helen Fisher – Biological Anthropologist; Rutgers U Judith Hand - Evolutionary Biologist; San Diego, CA Geoffrey Miller - Evolutionary Psychologist; U. of New Mexico Steven Pinker – Evolutionary Psychologist; Harvard U. Gad Saad – Evolutionary Consumer Psychologist; Concordia U., Montreal Leonard Shlain – Surgeon, Author; Marin County, California Ursina Teuscher – Evolutionary Psychologist; UC San Diego Griet Vandermassen – Darwinian Feminist; U. of Ghent, Belgium Paul J. Watson – Evolutionary Biologist; U. of New Mexico |
